When it comes to seducing and dating women, one of the foremost things a man must have is confidence. A mans confidence is an unspoken measure of what kind of man he is. If he shows great confidence, he is a man who gets what he wants. A winner. A Successful person. If he shows little or no confidence, he give the impression that he would not be able to take care of a woman or a family. He cannot protect and provide for them. While many men believe that women look for a successful man because he makes more money, this is only rarely the case. Sure, there are some gold diggers out there, but there are more women who want a resourceful male because evolution has programmed them to seek these males out. They make the best mates in terms of protection and quality of offspring.

When you speak and act with an air of confidence, it shows that you are likely satisfied with yourself and your life. You've accomplished much of what you've put your mind to and you aren't afraid of a challenge. Keep in mind, confident is not the same as cocky. A LITTLE cockiness is ok, even kind of cute to some women. But too much just reveals your immaturity. A real man is silently confident. He knows who he is and what he is capable of, and he feels no need to talk about it to anyone else.

Men who are confident, and thus satisfied with themselves and their lives, are less likely to be continually seeking out new forms of gratification. This means they are less likely to cheat, less likely to change jobs often, and less likely to get themselves into compromising situations. Again, this goes back to women feeling protected and taken care of. They want a man, not a boy, to satisfy these needs.

Women are not only looking for a partner, but a lover as well. As I mentioned in my last report, confidence is key to seducing a woman. A man who shows confidence in the bedroom is very sexy to a woman. Most women want to be 'taken'. This is not to say you should ever force yourself on a woman, only to say that women like a man who takes charge and gets what he wants. Always remember to be gentle, though. Womens bodies are much more delicate than ours.

Some people are naturally self-confident. They may have grown up being good at sports, or smart in school which made them believe in themselves. Or, they may just naturally be well adjusted and confident. In any case, these people do not need to work on their inner self image very much. Some people, on the other hand, have very low self esteem and no confidence. It does not come naturally to them to feel good about themselves. Wherever you fall on this spectrum, you have the inner potential to be self confident. If you are a person who is naturally "down" on themselves, you should work on this every day until you no longer feel this way. Try to find things you are good at, or find something you enjoy doing that you can work to improve at. Once you realize that success in anything is based on how hard you work and how much time you put into it, you'll see that you really ARE capable of achieving anything.

Know that you are a good person. Know that you can be funny, good at your job, you are smart, loving and considerate of others or whatever else you find to be positive characteristics of someones personality. It sounds cheesy, but maybe even write a list of declarations to recite out loud every day. It could go something like this:

I am a smart, capable man.
I am a man who identifies what he wants and works hard to get it.
Even though I sometimes feel discouraged, I do not complain or feel sorry for myself.
I am a man who takes action and gets what he wants.
A woman would be lucky to have a man like me in her life.
If people do not like me, that is too bad, but I will not change just to please others.
I will feel confident in everything I do today.
I know that I can accomplish whatever I put my mind to.
Every failure is a learning experience, and I will improve every single time it happens.

Also, know that not all women are looking for a CEO or a brain surgeon or something of that sort. Most women really value a man who's confident in who he is and knows what he has to offer in a relationship. When you show a woman that this is the kind of man you are, they will look at you with a silent respect and attraction.

I hope you found this article informative and interesting.

Wishing you the best in all your dating endeavors,
-Tony Derrick