First date? Here's five things that you should not do
if you want to make the right impression on the person you are meeting
for your first date.
Don't arrive late
Someone,
somewhere gave birth to the idea that it is fashionable to be 10
minutes late. It isn't. On a first date both of you are probably
nervous and the last thing you need is to end up waiting around with
that sinking feeling that you've been stood up. Make sure you've both
got cell phones and, if you really, really have to be late, make sure
you call the person you are meeting and keep them informed.
Don't appear desperate
It
may have been a long time since you had a relationship but if you don't
give out the vibes that you represent a 'good catch' you are going to
have to wait a lot longer. Don't be arrogant or over-confident but try
to just play it cool with the attitude that you've both arranged to
meet to 'see what happens' - no more, no less. Don't expect too much
from your first date.
Don't arrange to meet in a place where you are well-known
This
looks really cool on television where 'everyone knows your name' but in
real life it is not such a good idea. The last thing your date needs is
to be made to feel like an 'accessory' whom you have picked for the
evening, nor does it serve you well to appear to require the
approbation of others in your choice of partner. Find a quiet
restaurant to meet in and where they have one or two sittings an
evening. If you choose the later one, you can take the evening in a
leisurely manner.
Don't talk about your ex or your partner's ex if you can humanly avoid it
Compare
lives, interests etc but try to steer clear of talk about a previous
partner or relationship. We all like to feel that we are the 'one and
only' and wistful or angry reminiscences of previous acquaintances will
spoil your first date.
Don't get drunk
Drink
will not make you the life and soul of the party - you will just end up
being another drunken fool seeing the world through beer-bottle
glasses. In doing so, you will undoubtedly embarrass yourself and your
partner. Decide on a limit beforehand (say two glasses of wine or
half-pints of beer) and stick rigidly to it. Have some non-alcoholic
drinks in mind for when you've used up your allowance.
These
aren't difficult rules to follow but, if you do, you give yourself the
best chance of impressing your partner and finding a new relationship.
Good luck on your first date.
Clive
West met his wife, Damaris, through a dating agency. They have been
married 18 years and now live in Italy where they are modernising an
old farmhouse. You can get more free information about relationships and dating on their websites.