My friend John is a good guy. He's smart, pretty decent looking, funny and just fun to be around. But there's one problem: John's a wimp.

John is by far one of the most passive people you will ever meet. This is normally not a bad thing. It's good to not let stuff get under your skin. You keep your cool and stay relaxed that way. You enjoy life more. But it becomes a problem when you let people walk all over you.

You see, John has never felt the need to get his way. He's just not that kind of guy. But when we go out to bars, women smell this on him instantly. And they take full advantage of it. It starts out innocently enough: "hey want to buy me a drink?" being the generous guy he is, he'll always oblige.

So now we've got John buying a girl a drink. While shes drinking it she'll usually talk to John off-and-on, just to keep him around. But mostly shes interested in other guys, so thats who shes paying attention to. Pretty soon her drink is gone and she needs a new one. But wait! Her friend just walked in and "oh buy my friend a drink too!"

She'll introduce her friend to John and John, being the nice and passive guy he is will say "yeah no problem I'll buy your friend a drink". Now he's three drinks deep and still doesn't have much to show for it except two women who seem mostly interested in other guys.

Then the real fun starts. The girls will usually, at some point, leave John and go hit on other guys, drinks in hand. But they'll come back whenever they need a new drink. This will continue for most of the night or until we go to a different bar.

Lucky for John, he's never started a long term relationship with one of these gold diggers. I can only imagine the type of money they'd demand he spend on them on a regular basis. Clothes, jewelry, trips to the salon, etc. etc. etc..

The list never ends, and thats why you've got to CUT gold diggers out of your life from the start. Now I'm not saying you should never buy a girl a drink, but make sure its a mutual exchange. You buy her a drink, she sits and you get to know each other for a while. Don't let women view you as an ATM machine with legs.